Friday, July 15, 2011

Invasion of the young people

Well, over the past months, our youngest daughter had her Uni friends stayed over at the house. At one time, I had to gingerly stepped over sleeping bodies all over my living room! There were young people sleeping on the floor, on the sofa, 3 to a bed in the bedrooms....I think if the kitchen floor had wood panelling, some of them might even sleep there too! Anyway, I was glad to get to know Amanda's friends. These bunch of boys and girls conversed mainly in Mandarin. Thanks to them my youngest daughter could speak Mandarin fluently. What we could not achieve with all the tuition teachers when she was young was achieved with her spending a year and a half at the University up north! God had given my youngest daughter a special grace to adapt and to pick up languages with ease.

Anyway, at least 2 young men and a young lady stayed for a slightly longer period than the others. One of them had started working in the No. 1 Japanese boutique, Uniclo and needed a place to stay. Being the kind hearted folks we were, we agreed to Amanda's proposal to let him stay for a nominal sum. The other stayed for about 2 weeks as he had was from Penang and needed a place to stay temporarily. Like Amanda, he had to repeat some foundation year papers at President College. The other girl opted to re-sit 4 papers. Many of my daughter's classmates did not get the required CGPA for dentistry or medicine but they were a determined lot. Re-sitting the papers in another college was the best option in order to ensure a place in the private medical universities for the courses they wanted!

Seeing them in the house, talking to them and watching them interact with each other made me recall the question I was asked during the supermum contest on board the Virgo "Do you think you could have been a better mum with more children?". I answered that its not the quantity but the quality that matters. But seriously looking at the young men and young women playing cards, cluedo, monopoly and badminton with each other, hearing their light and easy banter and seeing them giving Samuel other options of leisure rather than his computer....I really wonder....would it have been different for my son if he had a brother to play with?

Saturday, May 14, 2011

Hard Rock Hotel Singapore

Day 4 (Wednesday), whilst the children played chess with giant chess pieces on the 13th deck, Tim and I played several rounds of ping pong. Other than ping pong, there is a mini golf course, a small wall for climbing, a basketball court and a games room where we could borrow board games to play. After having a hearty lunch at the Pavillion, we checked out and said farewell to the lovely cruise staff on the Virgo and stepped off the beautiful ship....we will be back next year! O yes, I also bought the supermum video for keepsakes! Imagine being the 1st runner up of a beauty and talent contest at 51 years old!

The check out was dissapointing as we had to queue for almost an hour or more before leaving Harbour Front. We took a taxi to Resorts World Sentosa and checked into Hard Rock Hotel. This boutique hotel has black and purple as its theme color accentuated with bright white and orange lights. The concierge was really friendly and helpful giving us maps, umbrellas and MRT cards. The reception staff did not wear uniforms but dressed like they were on a night out!

The Hotel is dedicated to all things rock. Black and white pictures of rock stars adorn their walls from the foyer to the corridors to the rooms. The lifts had crystals covering the mirrors on the side panels giving the place a cosy and romantic feel. The rooms were huge - it could easily accomodate 4 persons. The beds were soft and downy....like Amanda says "I can fall asleep just putting my head on the pillow". The room chandelier was unique as it dropped down from the ceiling encased in a cylinder. As for the bathrooms the dressing mirrors looked like mirrors from the changing rooms of a theater or concert hall with round orange bulbs encircling its sides. Hard Rock Hotel had humonguous rooms, almost twice the size of my bedroom back home!

On the first night, we decided to watch the much acclaimed show "Voyage de la vie" at Resorts World. The performances comprised unique chereography, lavish period costumes, singing interspersed with acrobatic acts never seen before by us and a story-line. We saw world class trapeze artists, motorcycle riders weaving up and down cylindrical globes, a William Tell-like archery demonstration, rope acrobats, a juggler whose little balls literally flowed out of his fingers, a comedic illusionist and his team which did a stunning illusion right in front of our eyes...and many more! In Amanda's words "This is the best show I have seen. It made the Virgo shows seems so 'chapalang' (slang for low class)" - sorry Harold Q, no hard feelings!

The illusionist deserved a little mention as he did one illusion which was very clever. He sawed his partner (who happens to be a guy and a pianist) into 2 and pushed the front part of his body close to the piano and as far away from his pair of legs as possible.The partner then played the piano face up in a reclining position with half of his body showing, the other half was sent to the far side of the stage! Long after the show, we were still trying to figure out how it was done. (You see, Tim and the children have watched the show "Breaking the magician's code" several times and something they like to do is to figure out how a certain magic act/illusion was carried out).

The following day we had a hearty buffet breakfast at the Starz and made our way to Vivo City at Harbour Front to do some shopping. For one thing, electrical gadgets such as hand phones and computers were cheap (even after conversion into SGD) and we inspected and tried out many models of i-phones, i-pads, berry(s) at the different shops at Vivo City. I toyed with the idea of an i-phone so that I could update my blog anytime any place....however I just did not feel that I could take on the responsibility of taking care of such an expensive piece of gadget, having lost my phone on the monorail sometime ago.

Needless to say, we also visited the Uniqlo outlet and admired the wide range of clothes available.

We took the cable car back to the Hotel and enjoyed a scenic view of Singapore. Towering buildings, hotels and the theme park dotted the landscape. We checked out about 1 pm and took a cab to the Golden Mile Complex at Beach Road where our double decker bus fully equipped with an in-house TV, kitchenette and plush chairs was waiting for us....

This holiday bonded the family together like never before. Somehow we always feel closer to our children after a few days away together....(see our photos on facebook)!

Goodbye Singapore, goodbye Virgo....see you next year!

Tuesday on the Virgo

We had a lovely Chinese breakfast on Tuesday at the Pavillion. The ship had docked at Langkawi about 8 am in the morning and many guests were signing up for the several tour packages available. The children wanted to go on the flying fox and abseiling but we were told that the tour had to be cancelled as they did not have enough participants. Many opted for eagle feeding and fish farm visits. We chose the shopping tour with stops at the Underwater Seaworld and the Eagle Square at Langkawi.

Much had changed since we last came to this beautiful island. For starters there were whole families of dwarf African penguins in a glass aquarium which we had not seen before. The colorful fishes, sharks, stingrays, starfishes, arowana, eels etc were simply stunning. After the aquarium visit, the tour bus took us to the fame Eagle Square for some photo shoots. The last stop was to a duty free shop to buy some of Langkawi's cheap chocolates...forero roches, after 8s, hersheys, mentos, tobblerones truffles were relatively cheaper than those back home. We must have spent over RM300 at the shop...I also bought some chocolates for church members and colleagues.

Back at the ship we got ready for the pre dinner cocktails with the captain and the ship senior management. We also had photo taking sessions with the captain. Pre dinner cocktails of champagne, mix cocktails, Japanese sushis were served also served. Every Tuesday on board the Virgo is gala dinner time, a time for guests to dress in their best finery and dine on an exclusive dinner menu. We saw a group of Chinese nationals dressed to the nines....the men were in tux, the ladies in black dresses and decked with jewelry. Some were dressed casually but most were formerly dressed. I had to buy a lovely (bling bling) necklace from the shop on board the ship to add a little pizzaz to my white Uniqlo top in order not to look too casual.

The Western dinner at the Bella Vista was a memorable experience. Lovely salads, soups and fish were served in just the right portions. Before the dinner ended, the kitchen staff came out with flags from their respective countries and greeted us with cheers and singing....it was an atmosphere of great fun and camarederie!

On this final night (tomorrow we would have to bid farewell to a wonderful cruise) we opted to watch the 10 pm Russian acrobatic show. The Russian acrobats were truly Olympic standard.....a lady who could twirl many hula hoops around her body, a young boy with strong arms who did some stunning acrobatic moves just twirling and twisting on a rope right in front of us, two men in flowing white pants did some stunning visual aerial acrobats that were just exquisite, a couple who did some incredible pole aerobics......!

The acrobatic performances were interspersed with dancers in beautiful shimmering costumes dancing traditional Russian folk dances with stunning chereography....truly an apt finale!

Tomorrow - Hard Rock Hotel, Singapore!

Friday, May 13, 2011

Monday on the Virgo

On Monday, I decided to join the Superstar Virgo Supermum contest. What was required for me was to show my talent in any area, singing, dancing etc. I told my family that if I could write a poem on mothers I will sign up for the contest. After a delicious western breakfast of several varieties of eggs: poached, sunny side, runny, omelette, croissant, brioche, cereals. nasi lemak, turkey ham etc, I rushed to the Celebrity Disco for the rehearsal.

10 of us had signed up for the contest: 8 Indians, 1 Filipino and me the only Malaysian. We had to give a short intro of ourselves. We were then ushered into the Lido where we were required to rehearse the following:

1. give our names, country and a one liner on "A mum is.....",
2. our standing positions, our numbers which were pinned to us (yours truly was no: 4), our posing and our movements on stage,
3. our talents (I did not read out my poem as I had not really finalized it. First Harold gave us one minute then he decided to increase it to 2 minutes, so I had to write 2 poems to accomodate the time!),
4. 3 pieces of linen bedsheets were given to us. To show our creativity we had to wrap it around our bodies and come up with the most creative wear. It was not easy as the linen was long and the size of a single bed. I spent the whole afternoon trying to figure out what to do with them. For the first piece I made a pareo with it. For the second, I made a long wrap. For the remaining piece, I folded it into a handbag and tied it loosely with a beautiful necklace I had bought from the Ports O' Call,
4. we then had to wear our evening wear (clothes we bought for the gala dinner, though I did not bring anything special as I had no idea about it) and show it off to the judges,
5. finally we had to answer one question from our judges.

My family waited around for me from 11 am to about 2 pm and then we had a quick lunch at the Mediterranean buffet. At about 3 pm, they went to see the magic show, while I continued fine tuning my poem about my mother. At about 4 pm, the crew gave a lively dance performance (again I had seen it before on the Libra last year).

Well all the hard work finally paid off. The judges loved my poem and I won the first runner up! The prizes were: a bottle of champagne and a ticket to the Las Vegas show 'Casanova'. I was also given a certificate and a sash. The winner was a Filipino Chinese who won a ticket for 2 on board the Libra! Well never mind if I missed that as I made some nice friends from India. They were really talented. Some of them did Bollywood dances, some sang, one did a yoga....it was all good fun! One of the judges came up to me later and told me that he really loved my poem!

Here is the poem for my mum written on the Virgo that clinced me the prize (for the record, this is the first time I wrote a poem on board a ship and the first time at 50 years old I had entered a Supermum contest and won!):

"Though my mother is not with me on this beautiful ship today
Allow me to say a few words on her behalf on Mother's Day
Mum is 76 years old this year, but really her eyesight is good, her mind is clear.
She did not go to University but her words of wisdom remain with me.
She did not climb Mount Everest but she ensured that we (her 5 children) had the very best.
Cooking the most nutritious home cooked fare, yes, my mum is truly chef extraordinaire!

Though she did not sail the seven seas, her zest for life inspires me!
I remember how at each festivity, she will have lovely dresses sown for me.
She made sure that we dress nice and neat, politeness and respect for others
the hallmark of our speech!

And when we fall sick, she even treats our maladies, cough medicine, aspirins and medicated oil for all emergencies!

She is no Donald Trump or Bill Gates, she did not start a business conglomerate,
but all 5 of us had a good education - an auditor, a lawyer, a speech therapist, a business woman and a trainer economist!

To all mothers on holiday here today, this is just what I want to say.
Thank you for taking care of us with unceasing patience and unfailing love!
Your work is 24 hours and your salary is pure love!
And if we have not said it before, we want to say it again....

Thank you mums and a million thanks, hugs and kisses again and again!"

The question the judge I chose (he was the head chef) was: Would having more children make you a better mum? My answer: It is not the quantity but the quality as the job of the mum is to raise up children who are well behaved, polite, hard working and responsible citizens of a country and who themselves will be examples and models for their own children!

What an experience! We could not stop talking about it after the contest and there were endless photo taking. In the evening we had a lovely western dinner and decided to take a taxi to the Sri Bhurapa cashew nut factory at Phuket. There we bought many packets of cashew nuts and my favorite anchovies.

The only disappointment was that Samuel did not get to watch Phuket Fantasea. Daddy did not want to take him as 1) he did not have enought bhat and 2) he had seen the show before on Astro. It was also raining heavily in Phuket. The taxi driver was friendly and spoke really good English. I promised Samuel that if we come back to Phuket for the next cruise, I will make sure that I had enough money to take him for the show.

What about Amanda? She was busy studying her Maths. She had to re-sit her Maths paper as she had failed in it. Her exam was on Friday, one day after our return to Malaysia. Before we left, Amanda got her results for her foundation in science. She had a B and 2 Cs. That put paid to her desire to do dentistry as the minimum was 3 Bs. Finally daddy relented and agreed to let her do law, apparently her first choice. When she went to HELP to see whether they could take her in, they told her that she had to pass her Maths.

I guess sometimes as parents we really want the best for our children (maybe even for ourselves). Children with vocations like doctors and dentists will earn more money, more money means bigger allowances for us in our old age!However I realize that this may not be what our children wants. Further we need to be fully aware of what they can/cannot do and their natural inclination.

From this experience, I can see that things will always come full circle. Water will always rise to its own level. I truly hope that Amanda will shine and excel in her chosen career...will write later!

Superstar Virgo

Family holidays are happy events. We look forward to them as they are fun and enjoyable and present great opportunities for family bonding. Well, for this year, our family signed up for a 4 day 3 night cruise on board a ship. This time, we took a bus to Singapore to Harbour Front for a cruise to Phuket and Langkawi aboard the Superstar Virgo, the largest ship in the Star Cruise family.

We left on Sunday May 8 which was Mother's Day. Amanda treated us to a wonderful Macd breakfast with her first pay from Uniclo (the no. 1 clothing store in Japan and no 3 in the world). The day before we had spent over RM1,400 buying all sorts of shirts and cardigans from the store which had newly opened at KLCC. I had to take leave for half a day to buy a few things for Amanda and get some freebies like tote bags and a one of its kind tumbler for a certain amount of purchase. I take it as us 'supporting' Japan in her recent earthquake.

For the first time, Amanda gave me money to buy her clothes and money for her hand phone bill. This is a record of sorts as usually poor mummy has to pick up her bills. Sometimes her hand phone bill can exceed RM200 a month!

The double decker bus which we took at Corus Hotel was very comfortable. However I prayed hard for safety and protection as I was well aware of a recent accident involving a double decker which overturned and killed a number of people in a serious road accident.

Mamak mee was served on board with hot drinks. There was also a small toilet for light usage. The journey was restful and we stopped at the Pagoh rest area. We reached Singapore about 1 pm. At the immigration, we were told to throw away our chewing gums....I had no choice but to throw away a brand new pack of mints (won that during team activity at church camp recently). We were made to bring down all our bags. The Singapore Customs police were really fierce. They literally shouted at a group of Indian tourists. Our conductor told us that you cannot answer them back, they will 'bark' at you.

We reached Harbour Front at about 2 pm and checked in our 5 bags. We then visited Uniclo outlet at Vivo City which was adjacent to Harbour Front.

At about 3 pm we boarded the ship. Took us an hour to queue. Many holiday makers from India, Philippines, Indonesia, Singapore, Australia, France and other countries also boarded with us. We were informed by one of the guest that India was having a 6 weeks school holiday (no wonder half the guests were from India). We seem to be the only Malaysian family!

The room at Virgo was bigger than the Libra. 2 beds facing one another and a retractable upper bunk. There was a sofa bed for the 4th person. I really love the plush carpet with sea motives. The toilet also was bigger.

We ate our tea ravenously...fried rice, pizza, muffins, pitas, sausages, sandwiches...at the Mediterranean restaurant. This proved to be a favorite restaurant among the Indian guests as they served a variety of delicious vegetarian fare as we found out later. However it was not so popular with the children and Tim. I loved buffet restaurants generally  because of the salads available.

About 1,600 guests had boarded the Virgo for a 4 days 3 night holiday to Phuket and Langkawi. We also found out latter that the Cruise director was Harold Q (bald headed young looking chap with little dimples when he talked). He told us that he was transferred from Libra (yes, we met him and Hendricks last year). Harold is something like a drag queen!

The ship was huge. It has 13 levels. Facilities include a well equipped gym, 2 pools, 2 jacuzzis, a winding slide snaking down to the pools, a spa, a theatre (Lido) with terraced seats, a smaller hall (Galaxy of the Stars) for game shows, a library with many books, 3 restaurants (non paying) and 4 more (paying), 2 shops, karaokes, glass encased lifts, hair saloon, nail art shop, photo gallery, games room, mini golf course, wall climbing (or is it rock climbing?), a movie theater hall.....and many more. To truly explore the ship will take us a week, I think...

At night we had dinner at the Chinese Restaurant. The food was delicious. We then watched a world class magic show Philippart and Anja. I was a tad disappointed because I had seen an identical show on board the Libra last December....but never mind, its so good that its worth re-watch!

We had our first and last supper on board the ship on our first night stay. We had salads, bread, porridge, koay teow, fruits, India vegetarian food, cakes, muffins, sandwiches.....Stay tuned.....

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Traffic summons

The other day my husband discovered a traffic summons for a speeding offence  for his car the details of which were posted on a government website monitoring such offences. As the traffic offence occurred somewhere along the highway he knew that only our son could possibly have incurred it. He had no choice but to go through Sam's things to look for the summons. The summons was found and it was noted that the date of the offence was sometime back. Probably out of fear of being scolded by his father, he had hidden the summons from us.

In his 3 years of driving, Samuel had collected more summons than myself and Tim put together! If it was not for speeding, it would be for illegal parking.

When we questioned him about the latest summons, he admitted that there were a lot more traffic offences in the past. How did he get out of it? He proudly told us that he was able to get out of each offence by bribing the policemen! He said it unashamedly because according to him all his friends were doing it!

We warned him that bribery was against God's word. Not only was bribery morally wrong but it was also a criminal offence. Bribery is corruption and one day if he were to attempt bribing an honest policeman, he could very well be hauled up to the police station and face a corruption charge!

According to Samuel, he had heeded our warning. That was why for this latest offence, he did not attempt to bribe the policeman (although he wanted to). He said that he quietly sat in the car and waited for the speeding ticket to be issued to him.

When we heard his explanation, we decided that no deduction will be made for the RM250 summons from his pocket money the week ahead but that we will bear it this time around. However we gave him warning that if it were to happen again the next time, he would have to bear the fine himself!

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Working late

Well for the first time in my 5 years with the Bank I had to work until 2 am in the morning last Friday. It was really no joke having to stare at the paper that I was drafting and making no sense of it. It was even worse when  amendments had to be made to the paper which required some skillful typing but my best clerks who had helped prepare the first draft had gone home.

Past 12 midnight and there seems to be a faint throbbing pain in my head. I was dirty, smelly and simply fed up! I had felt the oncoming wave of a blackout but thank God I felt incredible peace (at that time my life group members were meeting in my house and I knew that they must have been praying for me).

When I think about the long hours at work (working till 8 or 9 pm lately) I am really thankful for my late father. He worked 3 jobs to support the 5 of us. He was a full time book keeper, a part time nyonya kuih maker and he also worked on weekends at the turf club taking bets on the horses from potential gamblers. My father did not have any vices and he provided the best he could for the family. While my mum was the homemaker, he was the sole breadwinner. However as he was only a bookeeper there was no way he could sponsor us without the 2 other part time jobs he had. If he was alive today he would probably tell me that the hours I keep in the office are nothing as compared to his working hours when even weekends are not spared!

For this reason my elder sister chose to go out to work after Form 6 so as not to burden him financially. As for me, by God's grace I had a Kuok Foundation loan and a Lim Lean Teng foundation grant.

My third sister had a full scholarship from British Council and she went to England to do her Masters in English. She later did a degree in speech therapist and settled down in England. My dad had to sponsor my youngest sister and brother in their education. Sister no. 4 did ICSA at TAR College and my youngest brother did a Science degree (twinning program) with Campbell University. I remembered that we did not take any of our wedding dinner angpow money. The dinner was sponsored by my mum-in-law and Tim and I was fine with my dad collecting all the angpow given to us from my side of the family to help pay for my siblings' education. Those were the tough years for my dad. He had a heart problem but due to our financial situation chose not to go for any treatment so as not to divert the funds he had set aside for our education. He used to tell us that he did not have anything to leave us except a good education.

Today I hope that my children know the hard work mummy is putting in to see them through University. When friends and family enquired as to whether my children had received any scholarship or PTPN loans, we will always reply that they are on FAMA scholarship (Father & Mother)! How previleged and blessed are my children to have parents who are able to fully sponsor their education till the highest level. Now my eldest daughter has said that she would like to continue with her Masters in England and the youngest one wants to do dentistry. Well, Samuel says he would rather go out and work after his diploma....whatever their plans may be, I have faith that God will provide for them.

I was really touched by my youngest daughter who sms-ed me recently "Mummy and Daddy I just want to say thanks for everything you have given me and I am sorry if I ever take things granted. Thanks for being one of the best parents in the world. I love you both."

To get such an sms from my children makes all the late nights in my office simply worth it!

Thank you to my lovely daughters and handsome son. Please study hard and make us proud of you! And behave uprightly so that you will not bring shame to your parents!